After the ceremony and the loooong banquet, one of the most anticipated moments finally arrives: the first dance. This marks the beginning of the party, the open bar, and a long night full of fun to celebrate your union, this time, without all the protocol and formality.
In this article, we’ll tell you everything you need to know about the first dance and give you ideas to make yours truly unforgettable.
Origin of the First Dance
The tradition of the first dance originated in the courts and high society families of Europe in the late 18th century. It became customary for the hosts of an event to open the dancing with a first dance, officially starting the celebration.
Over time, this tradition evolved into a wedding custom: the newlyweds’ first dance, which starts the party after all the formalities of the wedding.
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Style of the First Dance
Traditionally, the first dance is a waltz, but nowadays, couples choose the style they prefer (a ballad, tango, merengue, bachata, urban or commercial styles), or even a mix of different genres. This trend is increasingly common, with couples often starting with a slow ballad, moving into something like a bachata, and ending with an upbeat, modern track to launch the party.
Many couples take dance lessons or hire a professional choreographer. It’s a great option if you want to impress your guests!
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When does it take place?
As mentioned earlier, the first dance usually happens after all the formal parts of the wedding (ceremony, banquet, speeches, cutting the cake, etc.), and typically after the bouquet toss or handover.
While couples today can choose when to do their first dance, most still follow this traditional sequence. The first dance comes after dinner and right before the dance and open bar are officially opened.
Some couples choose not to do a first dance at all or opt for a more unique way to start the party. We’ll share more original ideas for this later in the article.
Some couples, especially in Anglo-Saxon traditions, include a father-daughter or mother-son dance before or after their own first dance. If you like the idea, it’s a lovely way to include your parents.
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How long should it be?
The first dance typically lasts between 1 and 5 minutes. It’s best not to go over 10 minutes, even if you’re mixing several songs and styles. If you do create a mashup, keep each segment short to keep it dynamic and engaging.
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Songs for the First Dance
There are countless songs to choose from for your first dance! To pick the perfect one(s), start by thinking about a song that holds special meaning for you as a couple. Once you’ve narrowed it down, consider whether it’s suitable for dancing and start planning from there.
And remember, it doesn’t have to be a waltz or a ballad. You can go for something more upbeat or create a custom mix.
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To help you decide, here’s a list of 10 popular songs for the first dance:
- Perfect – Ed Sheeran
- Until I found you – Stephen Sanchez
- Say you won’t Let Go – Haley Reinhart
- Young and Beautiful – Lana del Rei
- Lover – Taylor Swift
- You’re beautiful – James Blunt
- Say you won’t let go – James Arthur
- Ara – Nil Moliné
- Make you feel my love – Adele
- PLIS – Camilo, Evaluna Montaner
Which one would you choose? We also recommend checking out our Instagram video from UAUU Weddings & Events with song ideas.
It’s also a great idea to coordinate your first party song with the last song of your first dance. Ask your DJ, they’ll have tons of ideas to help with the transition.
Original ideas for the First Dance
Finally, here’s a list of creative ideas to make your first dance truly unforgettable:
- Choreography with a Mix of Songs: Wow your guests with a choreographed dance that includes a mix of musical styles. Start with something slow and end on a high-energy note. Dance lessons can be a huge help here!
- Outfit Change: Switching from your wedding gown to a shorter or more comfortable dress will help you dance and party the rest of the night. Grooms can also switch into something more relaxed—or surprise your guests with themed outfits or costumes!
- Group Choreography: If dancing alone feels too nerve-wracking, invite friends or family to join in. Start as a couple, then have others gradually join in for a flash mob-style surprise.
- Surprise Dance for Your Partner: Want to surprise your new spouse? Plan a separate dance with your friends to perform just for them after your first dance.
- Karaoke: If dancing isn’t your thing, kick off the party with a karaoke session! You two can sing the first song, then pass the mic to your guests. It’s a fun and memorable way to get everyone involved.
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We hope this article has helped you start planning your first dance. The most important thing is to feel comfortable and have fun—it’s your moment! We can’t wait to see yours at upcoming weddings!